Life is constantly changing and so are you!

Have you ever had “you’ve changed” thrown at you, usually with a negative undertone, used to imply you should still be the same person you were 5, 10. 15 years ago, have the same mindset, attitude, goals and ambitions.

I’ve had this said to me in the past, seemingly aimed at how I am now less shy and socially anxious around others and will put myself out there more, for instance with this blog and my social media. I’ve received quite a bit of negativity around that and my response would be, yes I’ve changed. Thank god! I’ve grown, I’ve matured, I don’t care so much what people think. I still get hurt by comments, but I enjoy sharing and knowing others have been there and can relate to my content and find it supportive. I know that something I’ve posted maybe the one thing a person reads or watches that day which helps them find the inspiration to keep going. That motivation is now stronger than my fears and anxieties around what others think of me.

That in itself is growth.

None of us are the same person we were when we were 18 years old. Would you want to be? I love where I am now in life. My experiences, mistakes, challenges, good times and bad have moulded me into this person with knowledge and insight that is unique to me. No one else on this planet has the same experiences and that is something worth sharing and celebrating. Embrace that uniqueness.

When people who we know say “you’ve changed” I think it generally says a lot more about them. It’s almost like they are trying to put you “back in your box” and undermining who you have become. They may feel insecure about their own growth. Maybe they have let fear hold them back from pursuing paths and they regret that so they feel a resentment towards you. There maybe a part of them that wants you to be the same person you were as you were enabling their own insecurities, you may have less time for them now. There are many reasons friends and family may react this way, that are all to do with them and nothing to do with you. If they were coming from a place of love and care they would be proud of your growth. They would want to see you to pursue what lights you up and you have a passion for, even if it doesn’t align with their goals and passions.

Sometimes when people don’t understand what you are doing or who you have become they will dismiss or disapprove of it. Remember to NEVER apologise for who you have become.

Own your growth. Own your choices. Be authentic.

Understand life is constantly changing and so are you.