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Inspiration · self care · self development

Let go of the outcome

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Just let go.

Take a deep breath, release it slowly and make a decision to no longer be attached to the outcome.

Can you control what happens? No. So despite the fact that you know how you want this to turn out, you cannot make that happen. There are too many variables. Other people involved that have their own feelings, actions and points of view.

So if you cant control how it plays out. What is the point of the anxiety and worry you are putting yourself through right now? Because it is you that is causing the knot in your chest, you know? The tears you are crying because you are scared, the sadness you feel for what could be and the nights you lay awake playing out possibilities in your head, are all a choice you are making. It’s not the situation. Its the way you are CHOOSING to react to the situation. Its time to choose to let go.

When you finally let go and give it up to the universe, you will give yourself the gift of peace. When you stop trying to control and truly just trust that what will happen is for the best, then you can just be an observer and watch. Slowly untether your mind from the future you have created within it. You cannot predict, force or persuade life to follow that path. Have faith in yourself, your strength, resilience and determination. Whatever happens KNOW you will deal with it, like you always do.

No, I know it doesn’t feel like it now. Now you feel alone, unsure, apprehensive, those tears and that ache in your heart are all consuming. Deep down though, you know, you know you will get through it.

Watch how life always has a way of figuring itself out. What happens right now may seem scary or painful but 6 months down the line you will see it made way for happiness and opportunities you never knew were possible.

So girl, trust the universe.

Trust the process.

Breath.

And let go…..

Bob Marley – Three Little Birds

Inspiration · self care · self development

“You’ve Changed”

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Life is constantly changing and so are you!

Have you ever had “you’ve changed” thrown at you, usually with a negative undertone, used to imply you should still be the same person you were 5, 10. 15 years ago, have the same mindset, attitude, goals and ambitions.

I’ve had this said to me in the past, seemingly aimed at how I am now less shy and socially anxious around others and will put myself out there more, for instance with this blog and my social media. I’ve received quite a bit of negativity around that and my response would be, yes I’ve changed. Thank god! I’ve grown, I’ve matured, I don’t care so much what people think. I still get hurt by comments, but I enjoy sharing and knowing others have been there and can relate to my content and find it supportive. I know that something I’ve posted maybe the one thing a person reads or watches that day which helps them find the inspiration to keep going. That motivation is now stronger than my fears and anxieties around what others think of me.

That in itself is growth.

None of us are the same person we were when we were 18 years old. Would you want to be? I love where I am now in life. My experiences, mistakes, challenges, good times and bad have moulded me into this person with knowledge and insight that is unique to me. No one else on this planet has the same experiences and that is something worth sharing and celebrating. Embrace that uniqueness.

When people who we know say “you’ve changed” I think it generally says a lot more about them. It’s almost like they are trying to put you “back in your box” and undermining who you have become. They may feel insecure about their own growth. Maybe they have let fear hold them back from pursuing paths and they regret that so they feel a resentment towards you. There maybe a part of them that wants you to be the same person you were as you were enabling their own insecurities, you may have less time for them now. There are many reasons friends and family may react this way, that are all to do with them and nothing to do with you. If they were coming from a place of love and care they would be proud of your growth. They would want to see you to pursue what lights you up and you have a passion for, even if it doesn’t align with their goals and passions.

Sometimes when people don’t understand what you are doing or who you have become they will dismiss or disapprove of it. Remember to NEVER apologise for who you have become.

Own your growth. Own your choices. Be authentic.

Understand life is constantly changing and so are you.

Inspiration · self care · self development

Find the courage to begin…..

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Every journey needs a first step…..

There’s never an easy way to start something new. There’s often an anxious part of you which battles the negative thoughts that ask questions like “What if its rubbish?”, “What if no one is interested in what you have to say?” or ” What if they laugh at you?”. Often that internal narrative is enough to stop you in your tracks and for that idea to be parked for now or maybe even forever.

Not today though, not this time. Today I have tentatively taken the first steps too putting my thoughts on paper. To unravelling my own bullshit on this journey. A journey after a divorce of almost 25 years of marriage and for the first time ever really understanding why I am the way I am, what parts of my life shaped me and working through healing them to be authentic and true to myself.

At 47 years old I am finally really experiencing self care for myself and what that means for me is setting boundaries, being selfish, saying “no” when its right for my own mental health and only allowing people in my life who have positive energy and are motivating and inspiring.

This blog is a journal of what that journey looks and feels like. The messiness, frustration, disappointment as well as growth, self love and hopefully joy in creating a life I love and remembering the person I’d lost along the way.

It takes courage to look at your flaws, be honest with yourself, really honest and challenge what you had previously made excuses for. Anyone on that journey alongside me. I see you……. I’m proud of you!
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