Be patient

There’s no rush….

You have given so much for so long, that it would be so easy for you to slip into something familiar where you are putting in all the work again.

And that’s ok, if it is given back. Reciprocated. Both players in this game trying their best for success.

But someone who is the right “fit”, will mean you don’t have to work that hard anymore girl. Not like you have been. Carrying a team of two, refusing to let it fail, even when it’s obvious there is no coming back from the defeats.

If you find someone who is willing to move mountains, because they want to be with you and that is a priority in their lives, then they will make it happen, you will both make it happen and it wont feel like a chore, it won’t feel like you’re carrying the load . Someone who is as excited to get to know you, as you are them, who wants to hear all about you. Everything.

This kinda guy wants to know why you are the person you are today, he’s interested in the past that brought you here but is so much more concerned about you now, in the present. This guy wants to see you smile, your eyes light up, he wants to plan time with you, see you excited to do things, together, experience life, together.

He’s out there.

Be patient.

It’s ok to give it all to this kinda guy but stop hoping to transform a guy who isn’t there yet, has wounds to heal and isn’t ready for that journey. It ain’t happening. He’s not ready. You can’t mould them into someone who “fits”. Stop trying so hard to make it happen. You don’t wanna live your life trying to “fix” someone, do you?

This guy isn’t afraid to apologise and admit when he’s wrong, he talks to you about things that are worrying him, figures out problems alongside you when something doesn’t feel right. This guy talks, works on and figures things out with you. A partnership. He lessens the load, he doesn’t add to it.

You deserve to feel completely loved. You deserve to be fought for and not to have to spend your life fighting for them. You deserve to feel safe and secure in the knowledge that your person will put in 100% to a relationship and you’ll be able to relax and enjoy each other.

Finally, when this kinda guy arrives, take a deep breath and surrender to this kinda love. Exhale….

It’s time for you to relax into something. To no longer need to try so hard for two people but be one half of a couple, working with each other, towards their goals . It’s time for you to know what peace feels like. It’s time you found a protector, supporter, cheerleader and team player.

Lets be honest you don’t know what that feels like, do you? You’ve never really had it. You have always put in way more of yourself than was healthy and you are not sure what “safe” is?. You will know when it arrives. You will know when you no longer have to start bringing up the hard stuff and he starts those conversations, when you no longer have to guess what’s going on because he communicates openly.

You will know, for the first time how it was supposed to feel all along.

Be patient.

And soon you will be able to exhale.